MOTIVATIONAL OF THE DAY

NO SELF-JUDGEMENT

“You judge yourself harder than anyone I have ever met.” Someone once told me this and they have never been alone in expressing that sentiment.

It is hard NOT to criticize ourselves for our shortcomings and flaws. Yet the truth is we will NEVER be “perfect” and it is unreasonable to expect ourselves to be. This does not mean we should not expect highly of ourselves, but because we ARE human and WILL “mess up” sometimes, learn that it is NOT ok to perpetually beat ourselves up when we “fail” to meet the personal standards we have set.

“Today, I will not judge myself.” I saw these words this morning and they hit a chord. That someone was right: I do not judge others, but expect “everything” from myself and always have.

Our self-talk is so very important, the inner dialogue that reverberates inside consciously and unconsciously guiding and driving us in thought and action, and I know better than anyone that we can be our own destruction more than anything else. Imagine, just for a moment, a single day where you do NOT judge yourself and simply LOVE the flawed being that you are.

Maybe it is time to not JUST imagine. Time to release anything negative or toxic withIN, give “freedom” of complete and unconditional acceptance of self. I am willing to try and see what difference it makes.

© 2015 Rosie Chee

MOTIVATIONAL OF THE DAY

ACTS OF KINDNESS

It doesn’t take much – a smile, a hug, a few words of encouragement – to make a difference. You never know just what they might do, how significant such a small gesture might be to a soul in pain or struggling. Sometimes one small act of kindness, conscious or not, can change the course of another’s life – change their perspective, the words going over in their mind that they tell themselves, and in turn, their beliefs about themselves that from their actions stem.

We are not alone in this world. We are surrounded by billions of other souls, none any less significant or less precious than our own. We might never know the majority of them, never come into contact with multitudes, but we can also never UNDERestimate the effect we can make, even on those we will never physically meet – the words they read online or in print, the images they see that imprint into their psyche, the way everything comes together to form their reality of themselves.

No matter WHO you are - your “status” in life through power and position, the experiences that shaped you and created the person you are today – you can make a difference in someone ELSE’S life. All of us can. Just by opening our eyes to our hearts and understanding that even if one smiles does not mean there is not pain in their soul, because one laughs does not mean that the sound of tears does not echo louder inside them, when one extends a helping hand does not mean that they know how to deal with what is going on in their own life.

By realizing this, we can start to see how one small act of kindness every day can help not only others, but also OURSELVES. When you are in pain and give a smile you do not feel because you cannot bear to see another in pain can slowly warm your heart. Laughing with another even when you want to cry can slowly ease the burden of your tears. Extending a hand to help another in need can slowly give a glow that spreads through your soul, knowing that everything in time and for a purpose.

By changing something we might not even think we changed, we CAN make a difference. Making a difference in the life of another can ripple effect into the lives of those we do not even know, spread further than we could ever fathom, and start a chain reaction that changes more than we might possibly imagine. ONE small act of kindness might not change the world, but it is a START, for it starts with US, and when we change OURSELVES, we have the power to change ANYthing.

© Rosie Chee

MOTIVATIONAL OF THE DAY

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF

Sometimes we spend so much time looking after and out for others that we forget to take care of OURSELVES. We work ourselves into the ground trying to do everything for everyone else, being strong for everyone else, making life work for everyone else, that we neglect to take care of ourselves. We allow our energy to be drained in our service to others, our strength to be used to nurture others, our minds to be consumed by thoughts of how to make things better for everyone else, but ourselves. And when that happens, you have NOTHING left for yourself. You drain yourself dry. You don’t nourish yourself, or replace what is being used, giving back to yourself so that you do not lose of yourself.

It’s fine to give, but it’s NOT fine to give and give and give until that’s all you’re doing, not taking care of yourself, not looking out for YOUR best interests, not accepting help from others because you have to be the one doing everything, until eventually you find yourself collapsing, shattered and broken, with nothing left to help yourself, empty and alone.

You have to be GOOD to YOURSELF. You have to nourish and feed yourself – whether it be taking time out every day just for YOU and no one else, meditating, filling yourself with the Spirit and refreshing your soul, speaking positive words of encouragement and empowerment over yourself and your life. You have to relax and recuperate – whether it is having a day off doing everything for everyone and focusing solely on you, so that your body and your mind stays strong and doesn’t run out of energy or spirit. You have to learn to be selfish and say “no” sometimes, because you cannot do and be everything to everyone all of the time, and you need to learn what you CAN do, what you cannot, and accept that, instead of piling all the world’s burdens on your own shoulders.

You have to be GOOD to YOURSELF. When you are good to yourself, then you can be good to OTHERS. You are better equipped to deal with others and their demands, and you will not bleed yourself dry in trying to manage those demands.

You have to be GOOD to YOURSELF to be of any use to ANYONE ELSE! So, if you are not and know you must be, start today! BE GOOD TO YOURSELF!

© Rosie Chee

MOTIVATIONAL OF THE DAY

SAY "YES" TO YOU

You have had something on your heart for a long time now. Something that should been done when you FIRST recognized it, but never was because you were too busy taking care of everyone else and their needs, ignoring your own in a misplaced sense of loyalty. But now that something is of PARAMOUNT importance to do, for such a deep-seated desire does not get laid on one’s heart for no reason, and it’s time to start thinking about your OWN health and happiness, to begin doing what will be BEST for you.

First, you must learn to be SELFISH. Hard for those who always put others before themselves, who have taken care of everyone else all their life and neglected themselves until they could no longer ignore the warning signals inside. Being selfish we all need to be sometimes, for if we do not take care of ourselves we are NOT going to be in any position to be of service to others. We also need to realize that when WE are healthy and happy, then we are better equipped to create POSITIVE impact in others’ lives.

You are at the point where you can no longer ignore that desire, when it MUST be taken care of before all else, not just because it should have been done, but because if it is NOT, you will never be able to live your life as completely as you were meant to. You WANT to become ALL you have the potential and power to be, and to do that this must be DONE. You have made the decision and now it is time to ACT on it, creating the reality that you have sought in your heart for a long time.

Realize that saying “no” to everyone else and their needs for a time is NOT bad, for not only must they learn to start taking care of themselves and not rely on draining you of everything you have and are to keep them satisfied, but you need to start thinking of YOU and YOUR best interests. Life changes and we change with it and that change should constantly be making us into something BETTER than we are. To become better, you have to know what you NEED to do to reach that next level and just DO it, no matter the cost.

There is ALWAYS going to be a cost to doing what must be done, but that is nothing compared to what will be if you do NOT move. Your life is your own, so start allowing it to be. Start allowing yourself to LIVE. Start allowing that glimpse of happiness to become a ray of hope that spreads throughout your being, into all corners of your soul and life. Start allowing that inner voice to say “YES” to yourself, accepting that you must in order for your life to truly move FORWARD.

© Rosie Chee